My son is now two months old, and he’s more energetic than ever.
Before he was born I was a little worried about how my study schedule for the MCSE would be affected, but things have become surprisingly smooth. There do not have to be sacrifices.
I guess my advice for fathers who also want to have time to work and study is as follows:
1. Spend as much time with your child as possible
In my opinion, family is the most important contributor to your own happiness and success in life. After a stressful day at work, they’re there for you. Whenever they have troubles, they look to you for support. By investing in strong family relationships, you invest in your family’s future happiness and success.
2. Keep in touch with loved ones while at work
By using your precious spare time to communicate with loved ones (your wife), you effectively create more time at home later. I normally send a quick message to my wife whenever I have time, just to ask how she’s doing and what my son is up to.
3. Make the most of your free time
So your wife’s busy on the phone and your son is sleeping right now? That’s the time to whip up a quick blog! Or at least a draft. Make the most of these moments.
4. Use public transport
When taking the train to work, you have time to study, communicate with family, send emails to clients, network, or just relax. It saves a lot of money too!
5. Think about the life/work balance you wish to live by
Yes, we could all make great money by working 12 hours a day, 7 days a week, but how would you or your family feel about that? There are opportunity costs for everything we do, so it’s important for you to think about what is worth your time, and what is not.
6. Convince your family why you should be putting time into studying
If your family doesn’t understand your actions, they will have no reason to support you. Establish good communication and make your goals clear to them.
So those are just some of my thoughts on life/work/study balance. Of course, I am a very new dad, and any advice that you have about creating the best balance is most appreciated!